How to win friends and influence others

Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to an individual’s awareness of their emotions, the emotions of others, and the ability to manage them and act appropriately. These abilities are important for individuals that work in helping professions, sales, and public relations. These skills are also important to individuals needing to maintain or improve personal relationships such as students, teachers, parents, and pastors. In other words everyone needs EI. Researchers commonly assumed that EI has five components. They are:

Self-awareness. The ability to recognize and understand personal dispositions and emotions and drives, as well as their effect on others.

Self-regulation. The capability to governor or redirect troublesome impulses and moods, and the tendency to suspend judgment and to think before acting.

Internal motivation. A desire to perform for intrinsic reasons that go beyond income and fame -which are external rewards, – such as, a joy in doing something or curiosity in learning.

Empathy. The ability to understand the emotional nature of other people and responding to their their emotional reactions.

Social skills. The knack for managing relationships and building networks of people by finding common ground and rapport.

Many successful people have these skills and the good news is that with training you can improve their your EI. Abe et al. (2013) demonstrated this point in a pilot intervention for medical students. The results of their study indicate that skills training can make an immediate and long-term impact on the emotional awareness of individuals. It is important to note that the skills training focused on building skills needed for self-awareness and empathy. The primary activities in the intervention involved expressing one feelings and listening to others.

Problem Solving: why you need to take a nap

In a previous post, we indicated that taking a nap has many benefits regarding your cognition. Cognition is the mental process of attaining knowledge and understanding through your thoughts, experiences, and senses. It is important to note that a growing body of work indicates that sleep has these positive effects because it increases activation. Activation is the process of associating similar concepts within our memories. This type of processing facilitates the restructuring of information that is a key part of problem solving.

Sio et al. (2012)’s work adds to this body of work. Specifically participants in the sleep group in their experiments demonstrated that performance on problem solving improves after a period of sleep. The sleep group out performed participants who remained awake while they slept. The sleep group solved a greater number of difficult problems than did the other groups. The researchers concluded that sleep facilitates problem solving, most likely via spreading activation. This effect was not remarkable for easy problems.

This means that taking a nap will likely increase your performance with problem solving at school or work. Of course, sometimes we do not have the option of taking a nap and must employ other strategies to solve our problems. Collaborative problem solving, which is working with others to solve your problems, is a viable option in circumstances like these.

Learn the theory of how to get smarter

Intelligence has an innate basis. Yet, a number of scientists indicate how smart you become is dependent on your environment (Sternberg, 2009).  To put it another way, you can shape and even increase your intelligence through various types of programs and interventions. According to Sternberg’s theory of intelligence, intelligence has three dimensions. These concern a person’s a) information processing, b) management of their living environment, and c) personal experience.

Information processing comprises three different types of components used to plan, monitor, and evaluate problems that require solving. Second are performance processes that one uses to implement planning, monitoring, and evaluation components. The final component of information processing is knowledge acquisition and people use these processes to gather resources to solve problems that they face. Examples of these components include goal setting for planning activities, self-evaluation as a form of monitoring, and seeking help as a method for obtaining additional resources to succeed.

Sternberg’s theory of intelligence assumes that we apply our intelligence in three ways to manage our environment. First, we must adapt ourselves to our existing environments. Second, we must shape our existing environment to create new sustainable environments. Third, we must select new environments as necessary to achieve our goals. For instance when you first start a new job, you probably try to figure out the implicit and explicit rules of your corporate culture. You then try to use these rules to succeed in your new company. You can also shape your new company by creating a social club or users group for after work activities. Finally, if you are unable to adapt yourself or shape your new work environment to suit you needs, you might consider selecting a new job where you can better achieve your goals.

Our level of experience affects how well we perform each task that we perform. Each of us faces tasks in conditions with which we have varying levels of experience. As tasks become progressively more familiar, many parts of the tasks may become automatic. They need little conscious effort for determining what steps to take next and how to accomplish the next step.  New and unfamiliar tasks can make demands on intelligence that are different from those of tasks from which one has developed automatic procedures.

In the end your goal should be to increase your familiarly with the skills required in each of the three dimensions of intelligence. For example these skills include problem solving, planning, logic, and word comprehension among others. Continue to read this blog for more information on how to get smarter.

Learn how to get smarter with naps

When it comes to the topic of napping most of us will agree that taking a nap feels good. According to Sara Mednick, Ph.D. talking a nap will actually make you smarter. In her book, Take a Nap! Change your life. Mednick maintains that napping has a number of scientifically proven benefits. They are:

  • Increasing your alertness. This is an important factor for many people for example astronauts, stock-car drivers, bus drivers, telemarketers, healthcare workers and others interacting with public. NASA space studies have demonstrated that alertness increases by as much as 100% after a nap.
  • Improving your accuracy. Making mistakes costs us time, money, and energy. Making a mistake can sometimes destroy people’s lives. While working with greater speed usually causes more errors, napping offers a valuable exception. So whether you throw pitches or darts, play chess or checkers, cut grass or precious stones, a nap helps you get it right.
  • Helping you better decisions. Where are you going to eat dinner? Should you propose today or wait a while. What car should you buy? Should you sell your car? Every second, every minute, every day, we make decisions both trivial and small. Research indicates that pilots who took a nap in the cockpit made fewer judgment errors on take-off and landings and those who did not.
  • Improving your perception. We depend upon our eyes, our ears and, to a lesser extent taste, touch and smell to live a successful life. Science has demonstrated that we can enhance our driving, cooking, appreciating art forms, reading, quality control and even bird-watching after a nap.
  • Boosts your creativity. Many of history’s great artists and inventors, for example Mozart and Einstein, have said that napping allows the brain to create associations necessary for creative insight and opens the way for new ideas.
  • Helps your memory. Our memory consolidation, bringing information together to form knowledge, cannot occur in any significant way without sleep. We can improve everything from learning a new programming language to remembering human anatomy by taking a short nap between study periods.

Mednick’s book demonstrates that taking a nap has many selling points. It also helps you plan the optimum nap: when to take it, how long to sleep, and how not to wake up groggy. Taking a nap is a way to improve many of the thinking abilities that make you smarter.take-a-nap2

These three strategies will make you smarter

A link is one of the best ways to remember a list of things. The link strategy is best suited for learning lists of things. The person forms an image for each item in a list of things to be learned. Then, you picture each image as interacting with the next item on the list so that all items link in imagination. To illustrate, suppose a person needed to remember to take her laptop, IPad, briefcase, customer report, power cord, and laser pointer home this evening. She could imagine a scene in which she tucks the customer report inside the laptop. The laptop is inside the briefcase. The iPad is on top of the briefcase and with the power cord wrapped around the briefcase and iPad.   At the end of her workday, she mentally unwraps the interactive image that makes it probable that recall of any item on the list will queue recall for the others.

A story is easy for you to create and remember

Using stories to remember is also a simple and effective memory strategy. This simple mnemonic is a use of stories constructed from a list of words that one wants to remember. In this method, the story highlights the words of importance. When the person recalls the story, they also recall the words of importance.

For example, suppose a student is required to bring scissors, a three ring binder, a calculator, and a red marker pencil to school. In order to remember these items the student could construct the following story to help her or he remember these items. “A king put his calculator in a three ringer binder and draws a red bullseye on the binder with his red marker. Afterwards the king throws his scissors into the bullseye.

Should you use acronyms to improve your memory?

Among all mnemonics, the one that people most often report using is the first letter method. It is similar to the story mnemonic except it involves using the first letters of the pertinent words to construct acronyms. For illustration suppose a high school student is trying to remember that borax is made of boron, oxygen, and sodium. The student would take the first letter of each component and construct the word BOS. Then when he or she attempts to recall borax she or he will simply remember the word BOS and generate the ingredients from each letter in the word.

The basis for this post comes from Byrnes, J. P. (2009). Cognitive development and learning in instructional contexts. Boston, MA: Pearson Education.

Your Self-Efficacy and why it is important

According to Bandura (2012) self-efficacy is the belief in ones capabilities to organize and execute the sources of action required to manage prospective situations. The idea emphasizes the exercise of human agency; specifically, peoples’ ability to exercise influence over what they think and do. Examples of self-efficacy include a person’s belief that they can perform a particular job, sing a song, or solve a logic problem.

Scientists have investigated the effects of self-efficacy in numerous domains and many people have assumed it is a significant influence on human performance.  Self-efficacy beliefs affect our choice of activities and effort expended upon personal actions. It also influences our perseverance in the face of obstacles; how we feel and the goals that we choose.

The best methods to improve your Self-Efficacy

You have three ways to increase our self-efficacy. First are mastery experiences that result from the desire to develop a competency. Researchers tend to regard mastery experiences as the most influential source of self-efficacy. Although mastery experiences imply proficiency, futile attempts will undermine self-efficacy beliefs. Vicarious experiences encompass viewing a comparable other’s performance on given tasks. This source of self-efficacy is particularly powerful when people are unsure of their own abilities or when they have modest prior knowledge of the pertinent activity. Discussions and other forms of persuasive communication can also raise self-efficacy. These are most successful when expressed by parties who are capable and honest. Click here to receive your guide to self-efficacy development.